Are You Aware of This Sad and Naked Truth?

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A couple years ago I wrote a post titled, “Can Innocence, Purity, and God Prevail in a Highly Sexualized Era?” Even now, that post brings in the most traffic. Unfortunately, it not for good reason. I’m confident that the word “sexualized” is the attracting factor. You don’t want to know the search words that bring people to this post. It’s quite disturbing. I can’t even bring myself to write them down.

I just wrote a post on Project Inspired about pornography. It’s titled, “7 Truths About pornography.” What concerned me was some of the comments received. Brave young girls opening up and sharing their struggles with and addictions to pornography, and when they were introduced to it, some as young as 1st grade. If you haven’t read the post, I urge you to do so, and then take a look at the comments below it.

“Discipline yourselves, keep alert. Like a roaring lion your adversary the devil prowls around, looking for someone to devour.” (1 Peter 5:8)

As a homeschooling parent of young children, I do feel blessed that I am in a position in which I can have a lot of control over what they do throughout the day and who they hang out with. I’m very particular about electronics. My children don’t have cell phones, don’t have access to computers, don’t play video games, and don’t watch television. I allow limited movies and shows on Netflix which I approve first. My children love to read and listen to music. But they read and listen to what I deem classic and Godly.

Am I too strict? I know in the eyes of some of my friends, I am. But in a culture that is highly sexualized, extremely violent, and way too secular, I’m confident that I’m doing the right thing. I feel I need to step it up to protect my children. Psalm 101:3 reads, “I will not set before my eyes anything that is base.” And if I’m going to be held accountable when I stand before Christ, I’d better be speaking truth when I tell Jesus that I did my best to protect my children.

“Adulterers! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God.” (James 4:4)

Are you aware that more and more children are accessing pornography? 

(p.s. I’m afraid to press publish. Who knows what search words this post will prompt…oh well…here goes…)

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5 Ways to Enjoy Being Single When All of Your Friends Have Boyfriends

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Following is a post I recently wrote on Project Inspired:

Hey girls! Are all of your friends hung up on having a boyfriend? Are you? Or maybe your besties already have boyfriends and you’re still living the single life. Well, I’m here to tell you to stop pining and start taking advantage of being single!

I know it’s easier said than done, but when you think about how many years of your life you’ll likely be in a relationship, it sure makes sense to take this moment of being single and have fun with it, don’t you think?

Here are some ways that you can enjoy being single when all of your friends have boyfriends:

  1. Be confident and strengthened by your single status. I’ve mentioned this before, but I want to remind you that you are not defined by whether or not you have a boyfriend. So don’t feel bad if you don’t have one! It doesn’t make you less of a person. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It means you have the opportunity to learn to be confident and find strength in yourself and the the love of God Almighty. There is so much joy in that!
  2. Spend time with your single friends and find new ones. Being single gives you the chance to enjoy hanging out with your friends without compromising your time with a boyfriend, his friends and his family. Now’s the time to put yourself first when it comes to having fun. So spend time with your single friends and make more. Focus on friendships with like-minded people who share your interests and faith! Youth groups and church events are great places to meet friends.
  3. Get more involved in your activities. This is the one of the best times in your life to do the things that you want to do! It’s your time to mold yourself into the person you want to be without being distracted by someone else. So get to it!
  4. Take the time to strengthen your relationship with Christ. As a Christian, your number one should be Christ, whether you are single or in a relationship. So strengthen your relationship with Him before you get into a relationship so that pleasing Him first becomes second nature!
  5. Get to know who you are. This is a great time to learn who you are, what you want in life and what you enjoy doing. Once you learn about who you are, you’ll better recognize the kind of person best suited to you!

Ladies, being single and surrounded by couples doesn’t have to be a bad thing. You just have to use the time wisely and have fun! Are you single and enjoying it? Share your story, we love to hear from you!

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10 Things Teen Boys DO Want You to Know

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Following is a post I recently wrote on Project Inspired:

Ladies, do you and your friends ever wonder what boys think about girls? Are you or one of your friends crushing on a guy and trying to get his attention?

At the end of last year, I gave you a list of 10 Things Teen Boys Don’t Want You To Know! Well, this week I’m giving you a list of 10 things they do want you to know, but that they may not come out and say directly. I hope this will give you some interesting insights into how boys think.

Before you delve into this list, however, know that no two guys, whether they’re non-Christian or Christian, are the same. And not all boys fall into all of these scenarios. So here goes:

    1. Friendships are important to guys (just like they’re important to you!), and they often will put their friends before girls and dating.
    2. Flirting is confusing. Guys just don’t understand flirting! Some girls flirt for attention, while others flirt only with guys they like, but guys aren’t privy to the ambiguity behind flirting….so it confuses them!
    3. Girls who curse and smoke are not cool. Guys may not care if some girls they know smoke or curse, but most would rather the girls they’re interested in keep their language clean and not smell like ashtrays!
    4. They’re not into drama or backstabbing best friends. When girls gossip or talk negatively about their pals, guys are not impressed. In fact, guys respect girls with integrity.
    5. They can’t just be friends if they like you. Don’t tell a guy you just want to be friends if he likes you. Consider the flip side! How easy is it for you to hang out with a guy you’re crushing on when he just wants to be friends? It’s no fun!
    6. They prefer girls they can talk to. Some guys are baited by a pretty face, but beauty fades in the eyes of the beholder if you have a mean streak and no personality. The same goes for guys, right?
    7. The less makeup, the better. Many guys really like more of a natural look. Too much makeup gives the assumption that you have something to hide!
    8. Some girls are too boy crazy. While teen guys are interested in girls, many kind of wish girls would tone it down when it comes to boys! Oh, and they just hate the giggling and whispering behind cupped hands!
    9. They are more comfortable with modesty. They want to look into your eyes when they talk to you and not be distracted by tight or revealing clothes. Guys really don’t like immodesty, and if they do, it’s usually for the wrong reasons.
    10. Phone calls and text messages are not a commitment. When a guy calls or texts a girl, he may or may not be interested in getting to know her more, but either way, he doesn’t want her to think communication necessarily means commitment.

Ladies, this list is not meant to change you, but rather, give you some insight about the things teen boys wish you knew. However, it will also inform you of two important things. One is that all the things that guys don’t like are negative traits anyway, right? Like gossiping and smoking and being boy crazy. And two, nixing these negative qualities will only help you become more of a Godly girl…which is what your focus should be anyway!

Teen boys are complicated, that’s for sure, but guess what? They think teen girls are too. And the truth is, your teen years are complicated in general. Which is why I continue to urge you to spend your teen years focusing on God, rather than a complicated relationship, that in most cases will end in heartache!

Ladies, what do you think about the above list? Share your story…we love to hear from you!  

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